810 - Change The Man, Change The World
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[00:00:00] Hey, hey, what's up my man? It's Athea Sam here. Welcome to Unleash the Man Within. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you're having a phenomenal day. I'm super excited that you're in here and I'm excited to impart a little bit more wisdom to you guys. Man, this is this is like a pinnacle episode for me, okay?
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It's so much fun talking to clients live on air. So, anyways, that's everything for that. Let's get into [00:03:00] today's content. So today's episode is titled change. The man changed the world. My goodness, for starters, I have been posting some content about this on Instagram and have been getting called a misogynist, which is just Absolutely fascinating.
So I guess if you're, you know, sensitive to being, to men being misogynist, maybe you don't want to listen to this episode. About six, seven months ago, I, I was in this season of seeking the Lord for vision, asking the Lord, where do you want to take the podcast and the company and everything else?
And I've shared about some of this before in a previous episode, out of it came many different things. I felt like I got clarity on why deep clean exists and why this podcast exists. I felt like I got some. Clarity on new initiatives that I want to begin, you know, like, well, there's a bunch of them, but we're working on some new programs.
We're working on some new offers and products. And also, you know, we've added a lot to the podcast the last little bit. We've added video. We're on YouTube now. We've added in the Q and a started with written and now we do listener Q and a's [00:04:00] live you know, just lots of different ideas, lots of innovations.
It's been fun. You know, this is a really good season for us. One of the, one of the slogans or statements that sort of came out of me pontificating why I do the work I do and why this podcast exists and why we keep trying to grow, you know, some people ask us that they're like, Hey, you know, you have a.
Successful business with six full time people and you're making a difference and why are you so determined to grow and you know Keep reaching more people and I think the the bottom line is it all gets summarized in this one simple phrase Which is change the man, change the world. I think we can all agree there are things in this world that are not so great.
You know, things that need improvement, things that need Jesus, things that need to change. And the question we have to always ask ourselves is how? How does the world change? You know, you look at the like some of the dynamics we have with [00:05:00] politics in North America, which is that everybody lies through their teeth and they all just try to get your votes and then they get in power and they don't do anything or they do very little, you know, they do a fraction of what they promised.
You know, you have dynamics with the education system, right? Where some of the philosophies and trainings are. Decades behind, you know, medicine is another one. It's very, the research is cutting edge, but then the actual systems don't always parallel what research is discovering. And there's all these different dynamics at play that make you kind of go like.
How do we make this world a better place? You look at the crime rates are up. Suicidality is up. Anxiety is up. Porn addiction is up. Porn consumption is up. You know, how the heck do we change the world when so many things seem to be stacked against us? Now, I personally am not a doom and gloom person.
Sorry if I just made you super depressed, rattling all that off. I'm going somewhere with this. I promise, which is that I've realized why I exist. I've realized why this exists, this podcast, my coaching practice and everything that comes with it. It's because I believe [00:06:00] I'm crazy enough to think that if we can change the man, we can change the world.
There's an overwhelming number of stats that show when a man, a father, is not in another person's life, their chances of poor academic performance, criminality, low socioeconomic status, the list goes on and on, are all spiked significantly. Just because there wasn't a man present in the individual's life and especially in their son's lives.
Let's think about that for a minute. Why would a, a father, just the presence of a father be so important? I was just talking with somebody today. One of his friends is not being a good father and he's kind of stressed about it, you know, and he wants to talk to him and he's frustrated. Cause he knows like this is so important.
Like you just, you just have to put in like even 50 percent effort and you're already better than the majority. It doesn't take much, but there's something about being there. [00:07:00] Why is that? Well, because men are important to society. Who, who's the greatest golfer of all time? Who's the greatest basketball player of all time?
Who's the greatest, you know, you can name whatever your thing is. The people that excel, the people that make a difference in this world are men. And I'm not saying that women can't make a difference in this world. I'm not saying that some of the greatest, you know, whatever profession you want to insert belongs to women because they there there's tons.
All I'm trying to say is in this world today where people are trying to be little men, they're trying to put ceilings over them. They're, they're trying to limit what a man can do. The reality is the world goes to crap. When the men stay on the sidelines. So if we want to see this world become a better place.
You have to be part of it. You have to be part of the change. And the way you're part of the change is not by going to rallies. It's not by donating some money to some organization that's gonna make [00:08:00] a difference in the world. It's about you getting off your butt and changing and transforming because a transformed man transforms the world around him.
We see this happen literally every day. Okay. We see men who quit pornography. We see men whose marriages were in shambles, men who were being bad fathers, men who had a calling on their lives or a dream in their heart that now are suddenly thriving in all these areas of their life, all because they quit porn.
Now, maybe for you, it's not quitting porn, but the point I'm making is these men changed and because they changed, they made the world a better place. They changed their family line. They change their marriage. They change their financial situations in some cases. So the, the, the point I'm trying to make here is you must change if this world is going to change too.
It's not the other way around. We don't wait for the world to change and then, you know, we'll figure it out and we'll change us after you and I have to [00:09:00] change. And as we become people who are changed from the inside out, we change the world from the inside out as well. You know, it's amazing. I think about some of my, my transformation developments the last couple of years.
You know, I quit porn eight years ago, so that's obviously always part of my story, but. You know, more recently I've had a pretty, pretty big shift in my financial picture. I went from barely being able to kind of pay my bills, couldn't put any money ahead. And now my wife and I are, you know, in a much better position that way.
I think about my physical journey, you know, if you look at a photo of me two and a half, three years ago, a skin and bones, man, skin and bones, and I'm still pretty thin and pretty skinny, but I've been able to put on some muscle. I've gotten a lot stronger, a lot more confident in my body. And that's really the biggest thing.
Yeah. I've changed a lot and the one thing that's cool is I, it's not like I've changed and let's take some pictures for Instagram and we'll who call it a day. I've changed and it makes everything else in my life better. My marriage is stronger, you know, my wife and I don't have fights over [00:10:00] money. We just don't, you know, we're on the same page about it.
So that helps. But then we're also very fortunate to just be in a good financial situation. You know, me modeling what it looks like to take care of my body is the best demonstration I can give to my son for him to take care of his as well. I can give him all the health advice I want. But now that he's going to see a dad who carries it out, he's going to carry it out as well.
I mean, I'm literally changing people's lives and making this world a better place. And if my son can take care of himself, how many people can he impact? If my wife can feel secure and safe in our marriage what people could she go impact with that newfound safety? So what I'm trying to say is the world gets better when we get better.
And there's a huge responsibility in a very good way on men. To change, to continually change, to grow, to develop, to improve so that we can make this world a better place and make it into the likeness of how God designed it to [00:11:00] be originally. So I want to ask you, is that something you're on board with?
You know, are you interested in seeing the world change? And are you, do you want to just sit around and wait for somebody else to do it? Or do you want to be part of that change? Do you want to be a changed man so you can change the world? That's what we're about and everything that we do going forward on this podcast and my coaching practice Is going to be all about that it already kind of has been but that is the trajectory That's the course moving forward if you want to know why we're here why we exist It's because we're crazy enough to think that if we can change the man we can change the world So that's everything for today, guys.
I want to invite you into this journey. If you want to be part of it and maybe quitting porn is part of that journey for you that's really where this whole thing started for me many, many years ago. I highly recommend that's where you start. And trust me, if you, if you really want to see a radical change, quit pornography.
That'll, that'll change things in your life faster than just about anything else, and it'll change things in the world faster than anything else as well. So there's a link in the show notes. If you want to find out more about that. In the [00:12:00] meantime, God bless you guys. Thank you so much for listening.
We'll talk soon. Bye. Bye. [00:13:00]